You’re here, reading this, which means you haven’t given up. That matters. So many people avoid couples therapy because they’re scared it’ll prove the worst—that it’s over. But what if that fear is exactly what keeps you stuck? Loving someone and feeling hurt, distant, or totally off-track doesn’t mean it’s doomed. It means your signals are scrambled. Patterns can heal. You can find your way back to each other—with the right map, the right guide, and a willingness to try.
You want to make it work—you just don’t know how.
That’s where therapy helps.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Wellesley , MA
Stop having the same fight
Instead of repeating the same fights where one or both of you shuts down, blames, yells, or avoids the issue—escalating into drawn-out arguments—you’ll learn to identify and sidestep the recurring triggers (that look, a tone of voice, blame or criticism) that set it all off. You’ll learn to navigate even the toughest conversations because you’ll recognize the warning signs that you’re heading down the wrong path and know how to course-correct before things escalate.
When you do fight, you'll learn how to repair quickly
Rather than storming off or staying silent for days, you’ll learn to apologize in a way that truly helps. You’ll take responsibility for your actions and words and express genuine regret, turning conflicts into opportunities for growth in your relationship.
Find the understanding you both crave
Once you uncover what fuels your repeated arguments and misunderstandings, you'll learn to intentionally choose a new direction. Instead of staying walled off in your separate corners; you'll be ready to communicate with the purpose of truly understanding each other.
Support each other during life's transitions
When life throws you a curveball, you'll be each other's rock. I’ll guide you to turn toward your partner during stressful times, so you can face challenges together and make the weight of stress feel lighter..
Recovery from infidelity
Once we’ve established a foundation of safety, I’ll help you express your hurt openly and honestly. I’ll then guide your partner to truly listen and show that they hear and understand you. When you see your pain reflected in their eyes, that’s the moment healing begins—bringing you closer and more connected than ever before.
Bring the sexy feelings back
Safety, connection, and mindful exercises that tune you into your body pave the way for pleasure to flow back in.
Resolve long standing conflict or betrayals
Once you feel safe sharing your more vulnerable thoughts and feelings you'll grieve together the mistakes you've each made. You'll be a team again.
Teamwork will make your relationship blossom
No more "me vs. you," no more slammed doors or heavy silences. You truly understand each other. Now, you're both ready and equipped to share your deepest fears and desires, coming together on every level—emotionally and physically.
Return to the life where you
couldn’t wait to be with your partner.
Move from this....
X Every conversation about money/kids/the past becomes a fight which never ends.
X I can't talk to my partner about my stress/worry/sadness.
X My partner doesn't understand me. When I'm worried they turn off the conversation.
X I never know what I'm going to get when I come home. I've lost my best friend.
To this....
I understand that when I withdraw, my partner feels ignored, and when I come on strong, my partner can feel criticized.
I know how to share my worries with my partner and we hold the stress together.
I've learned how to share my sadness and anxieties in a way that my partner can understand.
I'm excited to come home and see my partner. We're that couple, the one other couples envy.
The Process
Session one:
couple together
We’ll meet together, all three of us. I’ll quickly walk you through how I work and what you can expect from the process. Then we’ll get right to it.
Infidelity shakes everything—but it doesn’t have to end everything. In our first session, we’ll start by finding out how you're both feeling right now. We’ll gently explore what each of you knows, how and when the affair was discovered, and the emotional toll it’s taken.
There’s no rushing this part—just a lot of space for honesty, pain, and tenderness. I bring deep empathy to these conversations, because I know how vulnerable and disorienting it can be to even sit in the same room together after trust has been broken.
Session two and three: individual sessions
In sessions two and three, I’ll meet with each of you individually. This gives me a chance to learn more about your family background, relationship history, goals, and concerns—outside of the couple dynamic.
These one-on-one sessions help me build a strong, trusting connection with both of you, as I work in support of your relationship.
Session four and beyond:
couple together
Session four and beyond is where we begin to explore the cycle that was in place before the affair—and the cycle you’re caught in now. These sessions can be tender and raw, and I’ll be there to help you both feel a little safer in the hard conversations.
We’ll focus on those pivotal moments where things go off track—when emotions run high, when one of you feels shut down, or when the hurt resurfaces. I’ll help guide you through conversations where the betrayed partner can express their pain, and the partner who stepped outside the relationship can stay open to hearing that hurt—without shutting down or becoming defensive.
As you begin to see how your coping styles impact one another, we’ll work together to soften the cycle and create space for healing. I’ve helped many couples move through infidelity and build a love that’s more honest, more connected, and more resilient than ever.
How You Get Lasting Change
I don’t focus on surface fixes. The work I do is about real, lasting change — the kind that transforms how you show up with each other.
First-order change is when you try to improve things by tweaking behaviors — saying things differently, spending more time together — without addressing the deeper emotional patterns underneath. These changes might offer temporary relief, but often, couples end up back in the same painful cycle.
In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we aim for second-order change. We go beyond the surface and get to the heart of the matter — the emotions, needs, and fears that are driving your responses to each other. By shifting the entire emotional pattern, we create new ways of connecting that lead to lasting transformation.
This is the kind of change that doesn’t just feel different — it is different.
Weeks of Therapy in Just 1-2 Days
Why wait months when you can supercharge your relationship in just 1 or 2 days? A couples therapy intensive lets you fast-track what would normally take many weeks—resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, and sparking new energy in your relationship.
Think of it as therapy on steroids (the good kind)—packed with insights, breakthroughs, and a massive boost to your connection. Get your best friend back and reignite the spark.
Questions and Objections
What if you take my partner's side against me in couples counseling?
This is a valid concern. Friends and coworkers usually "take a side", leaving us feeling judged and ganged up on.
I am specifically trained to connect and understand each member's point of view. Each member has a valid opinion of what has happened. Our sessions will be balanced and fair with each of you having ample time to speak and feel validated.
I'm concerned you will tell us to give up or that I'm wrong? I don't want to feel judged.
You can expect me to be warm, friendly, and easy to talk to. My job is not to judge and not to tell you how to live your life.
My job is to help you both feel heard and to help you hear each other. Behind all the criticisms and hateful things we throw at our partners are emotions that need to be expressed and honored. I can help you identify and express what you're struggling with so your relationships can feel light and easy again.
How do we start couples counseling? I'm ready and I don't want to wait long.
Contact me with any questions or concerns or to schedule your first therapy session. My weekly slots fill up quickly. Need support sooner? Explore my Couples Therapy Intensives.
Mental Health in Wellesley MA
Wellesley, Massachusetts, offers a variety of mental health resources to support the well-being of its residents. Here are some key services available in the area:
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Provides mental health support and can assist in emergencies. For immediate assistance, dial 9-1-1. They also offer information on various hotlines and support services.
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A multi-disciplinary group of licensed clinical psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists, and psychiatric nurse practitioners offering comprehensive treatment for mental health and substance abuse issues to children, adolescents, and adults.
Colony Care Behavioral Health
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A private, non-profit mental health agency serving families and children in Wellesley, Weston, and Wayland. HRS provides outpatient diagnosis, crisis intervention, and treatment, aiming to heal lives and strengthen the community.
The Stone Center Counseling Service at Wellesley College
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Offers a range of mental health services to students, including counseling and support groups. They provide 24/7 after-hours support for students in the U.S.
Wellesley Counseling & Wellness, LLC
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Provides therapy and support for anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and other complex living problems. Their team of therapists is dedicated to meeting clients' mental health needs.
Wellesley Counseling & Wellness, LLC
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An organization of families, friends, and individuals affected by mental illness, offering support, education, and advocacy to improve the lives of people with mental health conditions.
Additionally, nearby facilities such as McLean Hospital in Belmont, MA, provide specialized psychiatric services and have a strong affiliation with Harvard Medical School.
For youth-specific resources, Newton-Wellesley Hospital offers a compilation of mental health services and support tailored for younger populations.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis, please call 911 or reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 for 24/7, confidential support.
These resources are dedicated to providing comprehensive mental health support to the Wellesley community.
Key Features of Wellesley, MA:
Wellesley, Massachusetts, is a charming town located in Norfolk County, about 15 miles west of Boston. Known for its picturesque neighborhoods, excellent schools, and strong community spirit, Wellesley is often considered one of the most desirable suburbs in the Greater Boston area. Here's an overview:
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Education:
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Wellesley College: A prestigious private liberal arts college for women, known for its beautiful campus and rigorous academics.
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Babson College: Renowned for its focus on entrepreneurship and business education.
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Top-Ranked Public Schools: The Wellesley Public School system is highly rated, attracting families seeking excellent education.
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Community and Lifestyle:
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Quaint Downtown: Features boutique shops, cafes, and restaurants, offering a mix of local and upscale options.
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Community Events: Regular events like parades, farmer’s markets, and cultural festivals foster a strong sense of community.
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Parks and Recreation:
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Elm Bank Reservation: A vast area with trails, gardens, and open space for outdoor activities.
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Wellesley Trails: Extensive walking and biking trails, including sections of the Cochituate Aqueduct and Charles River.
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Morses Pond: A popular spot for swimming, fishing, and picnics during the summer.
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Transportation:
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Convenience to Boston: Easy access via Route 9, I-90 (Mass Pike), and commuter rail service into Boston.
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Public Transit: Served by the MBTA commuter rail and nearby Green Line stations.
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Real Estate:
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Upscale Housing: Wellesley features a mix of historic homes, modern builds, and luxury properties, with a higher-than-average price point.
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Family-Friendly: Safe neighborhoods and a suburban feel attract families.
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History and Culture:
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Incorporated in 1881, Wellesley has a rich history and is characterized by its New England charm.
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Cultural attractions include the Davis Museum at Wellesley College and local art galleries.
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Living in Wellesley:
Wellesley combines suburban tranquility with access to urban amenities, making it a popular choice for professionals, academics, and families. With its focus on education, green spaces, and community engagement, the town consistently ranks among the best places to live in Massachusetts.