It might not feel like it right now but
healing from infidelity is possible.
Let me help you both navigate the rebuilding of your relationship.
The pain of feeling betrayed doesn't just go away
A betrayal trauma can be infidelity, an affair, or when one or both partners don't feel supported in a time of great stress or sadness. There's a sense that the person who is supposed to be our greatest champion and supporter
becomes the source of our greatest pain.
It makes us feel crazy - but you are not crazy. Your relationship needs attention.
I can help you unravel what went wrong and lead you to turn towards each other in understanding and support.
I can help you both identify your underlying feelings and communicate them to each other.
There is hope for your relationship. Healing is possible.
Finding Trust Again:
Healing After Infidelity or Betrayal
Kimberly Schildbach Therapy: Healing After Infidelity. Empowering Couples in Boston & Massachusetts.
I understand how you're trying really hard to keep it all together after your partner has had an affair.
Or maybe you're the one who stepped out of your value system and now you feel horrible.
You're both wondering if your relationship can be saved.
You may be feeling a range of emotions, from anger and sadness to confusion and grief. You might both feel anxious about the future of your relationship.
We know that with the right treatment - couples can become stronger after infidelity or betrayal.
I can help you transform this betrayal into a catalyst for growth and healing of you whole relationship. I guide motivated couples just like you through the healing process after infidelity.
With my specialized training as a Marriage and Family Therapist, an Emotionally Focused Therapist and my training in the Attachment Injury Resolution Model, I have helped many couples heal from infidelity. If you are both committed to healing and honesty, it is possible to come out of this experience a stronger couple than before.
Experience the transformative power of Emotionally Focused Therapy.
EFT goes beyond simply addressing the act of infidelity. In our work together, we will delve into the deeper emotional needs and fears that led to a breakdown in your relationship.
EFT helps couples identify negative patterns that have developed in response to the betrayal. These patterns can leave couples feeling unheard, misunderstood, and further disconnected, making it difficult to rebuild trust.
I will guide and encourage each of you to be more emotionally available and responsive, creating a safe space for open and honest communication.
EFT can support you in making choices that align with your own healing process, including the possibility of forgiveness.
EFT is the gold standard in couples therapy. It's extremely effective in relationships where there has been infidelity or other attachment wounds.
Let's transform your relationship together.
Your healing journey begins now
Questions and Objections
What if the affair is ongoing?
I will not work with a couple where one member is having an ongoing affair.
I cannot ask the other partner to reach out and risk connecting with their partner while an attachment injury is still happening.
What if you take my partner's side against me in couples counseling?
This is a valid concern. Friends and coworkers usually "take a side", leaving us feeling judged and ganged up on.
I am specifically trained to connect and understand each member's point of view. Each member has a valid opinion of what has happened. Our sessions will be balanced and fair with each of you having ample time to speak and feel validated.
I'm concerned you will tell us to give up or that I'm wrong? I don't want to feel judged.
You can expect me to be warm, friendly, and easy to talk to. My job is not to judge or tell you how to live your life.
My job is to help you both feel heard and to help you hear each other. Behind our actions can be painful emotions that need to be processed with an experienced guide.
Will I get to tell my side of the story?
We'll meet all together for our first session and then I'll have individual sessions with both of you. These sessions are important for me to assess whether their are contraindications for therapy (like an ongoing affair, active addictions, or intimate partner violence.) These sessions are also a time to discuss your goals for therapy and to get to know about your history in your family of origin and your history as a couple.
How do we start couples counseling? I'm ready and I don't want to wait long.
Contact me with any questions or concerns or to schedule your first therapy session. My weekly slots fill up quickly. Need support sooner? Explore my Couples Therapy Intensives: Mini-intensives for ongoing work, or one-day/two-day retreats.
Specializing in....
Couples Counseling
Online in all of Massachusetts
Break free from the cycle of defensiveness and distrust. Reclaim your love. Rebuild a stronger, more fulfilling connection. Transform conflict into connection.
Therapy for Grief and Loss
Online in all of Massachusetts
With an Emotionally Focused Therapy approach, I prioritize your unique grief experience and guide you towards healing and personal growth.
Also offering Intensive Therapy Sessions: finding strength and healing through focused support.
Couples Therapy Intensives
Online in all of Massachusetts
Accelerate your healing journey. Intensive therapy options: choose from mini-intensives, one-day retreats, or two-day immersions. These concentrated sessions can be a standalone experience or a precursor to ongoing intensive therapy.